My new husband simply introduced home a puppy. I’m in LOVE! I’ve at all times needed a canine, however we moved round loads once I was a baby, and the timing has simply by no means been “right.” I’m so grateful to him for understanding my want, and for getting me this puppy.
So, what’s the issue? Right now, I work lengthy hours, outdoors of the home, making an attempt to make money so after we get pregnant, we are able to really feel much less pressured through the interval once I’m not working. My husband doesn’t perceive that since he works from home, the onus of caring for the pup through the day falls on him.
I take the puppy out for a brief walk, feed him and play with him earlier than I depart within the morning; and I’m throughout him from the minute I get home. But that also leaves an eight-hour interval when my husband must be on responsibility. He’s not on high of it, and the puppy goes to the lavatory in the home, chewing sneakers, and mainly entering into mischief.
How do I get my husband on board? It’s going to be a superb six months earlier than I’m home regularly.
Pooping Puppy Parents
This is GREAT observe for once you two change into dad and mom, on sharing the duty and endless duties of caring for an toddler. Though within the very starting, the onus falls on the mom (particularly if she’s breastfeeding), a pure partnership and understanding of shared “work” will make child-rearing that rather more enjoyable and rewarding.
FEEDBACK Regarding the grandparents wishing for an early Christmas (Sept. 27):
Reader – “Your answer regarding the request of the grandparents to have Christmas early was, in my opinion, correct.
“As a grandmother with experience in balancing family members in different countries, I find that flexibility in when to celebrate special days only adds to the enjoyment and precious memories. With my husband’s family in a different hemisphere, my children could never see both sets of grandparents close to, or on Christmas Day. However, we were always able to make the most of our celebrations and gift giving. I was always grateful that my parents accommodated us by having our extended family gatherings early, or late, in the years that we travelled “down under” for Christmas. My husband’s household have been simply happy that we visited them and by no means pressured us to return at a sure time.
“No one seemed to mind and those at home celebrated on the 25th as they wished. Also, before I had children, when working as a nurse, I never got Christmas time off and my parents accommodated that, too. My mother believed that family was more important than a date on the calendar.
“I wonder how the daughters-in-law will feel when they want to take a family holiday over Christmas and New Year when their children are limited by school holidays. Will they then expect grandparents to be flexible?
“My children loved the idea of having special meals and gift giving spread out over weeks/months. It just added to their fun and special memories. They liked the tradition of two Christmases.
“Now, as a grandmother, I find much joy in celebrations and gift giving at any time. My grandchildren, who are in another country, are delighted to celebrate their birthdays weeks early if my visit doesn’t coincide with the actual dates. Children are quite flexible and are thrilled to extend the festivities.
“I feel sad for the daughters-in-law. They are missing out on the joy of being part of new traditions. Children love traditions but those can be unique to each family. This year my son and his family will travel with me to be with my daughter’s family overseas on Christmas. My daughter-in-law’s family will accommodate with their family gathering with no complaints.”
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