Dear Abby: My mother-in-law, “Irma,” is a peach — she’s the sweetest person on the earth. She will do something for anybody to lend a serving to hand. Two weeks in the past, she fell and broke her femur, which resulted in a major hospital keep and wanted rehabilitation. My spouse and I’ve been caring for her home and managing all her different day by day duties whereas she recovers, however one among these has turn into a difficulty.
Irma has an old, needy, unfriendly cat (“Mehitabelle”) now we have taken into our home throughout all of this. She hisses and growls at me consistently and gained’t permit me to offer her treatment, which is required twice day by day. Irma loves her kitty and asks about her usually.
We have two cats of our personal, so we created a home for Mehitabelle in an upstairs bed room in an effort to maintain all of the cats in the home amicable. (She doesn’t get together with one among ours.) My spouse and I’ve managed this to date, however issues have grown dramatically worse.
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In addition to her poor habits, Mehitabelle refuses to make use of her litter field. We have set pads across the litter field and all through the room, nevertheless it’s nonetheless a horrible mess to scrub up on daily basis and takes greater than an hour. That cat has single-handedly ruined this part of our home by urinating all around the flooring and furnishings.
We have a good looking home we’ve labored arduous on, and it actually hurts to see the animal wreck issues. She has to go, as I see it, however Mom loves her cat. What will we do?
— “Feline” Bad in Missouri
Dear “Feline” Bad: Mehitabelle doesn’t seem to love residing with you any greater than you want having her as a houseguest. If your mother-in-law’s home is shut sufficient to yours that you could possibly go there as soon as a day, you would possibly all be happier if the kitty was returned to her personal territory moderately than staying at your place. If you or your spouse may organize to offer Mehitabelle her meds as soon as a day and discover another person prepared to see that she will get her second dose, the state of affairs could be workable till your mother-in-law is launched. Please take into account it. It could save your sanity.
Dear Abby: I stay with my finest buddy and his younger son. We get alongside effectively, however my buddy’s older son is a meth and heroin addict. He has stolen from all of us, however his father refuses to ban him from the home, saying he refuses to surrender on his boy. This is tearing their household aside, and I’m at my wits’ finish emotionally. Please advise.
— Losing My Mind in Ohio
Dear Losing: I’m sorry, however in the event you worth the possessions you will have labored arduous to accumulate, you’ll have to transfer out as a way to shield them. Tell your buddy you don’t count on him to decide on you over his drug-addicted son. Make clear that he and his younger son are welcome to go to you anytime, however you can not ignore that his older boy is so caught up in his habit that he can’t be trusted. Then comply with by way of.
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